Couples Therapy
Anyone who has ever been in a long term relationship will tell you that it weathered some very rough times, even moments rife with uncertainty about its viability. More than any other reason, people come […]
May 2016
A Son’s Vows to Love, Honor, and Obey Go Awry
My brother’s troubles began with my parent’s marriage. They knew each other for only one week when they married. Mother told me that she only agreed because she was twenty-five, an old maid. Dad was […]
Becoming a Heterosexual Man
“Fuck you, Mom. I look at porn.” That’s the root of the problem isn’t it? Not just her fault, that would be too easy and too damn typical and childish to stomach. And my continued […]
Truth in Deviance
How secretly working in the erotic role play industry since age 19 taught me more about humanity than any upstanding profession I’ve ever held during normal business hours. Let’s say my name is Becca. Those […]
Myopia Road: Reflections on Painting and Therapy
Growing up on a road named Myopia always seemed fitting for my family since a myopic vision involves being able to see objects when things are close by, but having difficulty in seeing when objects […]
The Old Country
Family habits are hard to quit. Cycles move through us and are passed down; we all carry our own portion of psychological damage, the inherited limitations that shape our existence. Our individual share of what […]
My Mother’s Death / My Father’s Resurrection
This morning my mother died. Her death followed a long struggle with several illnesses, all related to smoking during the fifty-three years of her marriage. She began at a time when smoking was fashionable and […]
What Your Favorite Porn Says About You
You are sitting in front of a computer screen surfing porn sites ready to get off. You sift through scenes and images until you connect to one. Suddenly, every element of desire falls perfectly in […]
In Favor of Casual Sex
Sex is far from the primitive, base instinct we are led to believe it is. It’s our most complicated human need. Whether in a casual encounter or a long relationship, through sex we communicate our […]
Thinking Beyond Sexual Identity
The labels that exist to describe us typically fall short of encompassing the fullness of human sexuality. Neither heterosexuality nor homosexuality are what they are cut out to be. For most of us, the specifics […]